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Feb 3, 2019 Sam Vaknin
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Why do narcissists find the internet and social media to be irresistible hunting grounds? (Interview in English with Polska Gazeta, February 1, 2019)
Topics: narcissist, psychopath, hunting, play, relationships, internet, social media, computers,...
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Feb 1, 2019 Sam Vaknin
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Sam Vaknin - A Prophecy of the Emergent Religion of Narcissism An episode of Intellectual Explorers Club By Intellectual Explorers Club Peter Limberg is the host and producer of the Intellectual Explorers Club podcast. A podcast of ideas. Big ideas. Ones that will enrich your map of reality, or at least make it more interesting. intellectualexplorers.club
Topics: narcissim, religion, culture, society, personality disorders
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NEW VIDEO Narcissism, the New Faith - Part 1: Distributed God and Human Sacrifice  https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=b87WQj3q0_w Pathological narcissism is the abused child's personal religion, with the False Self as the godhead. The child sacrifices his true self to the false self in return for the latter's grandiose fantasies and defelection of the pain and hurt suffered by the traumatized child. The narcissist then proceeds to extract narcissistic supply from other people in order to validate...
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Pathological narcissism is the abused child's personal religion, with the False Self as the godhead. The child sacrifices his true self to the false self in return for the latter's grandiose fantasies and deflection of the pain and hurt suffered by the traumatized child. The narcissist then proceeds to extract narcissistic supply from other people in order to validate the reality of the False Self: he acts like a missionary trying to convert his sources of supply into his private religion or...
Topics: narcissism, religion, society, civilization, culture, god, deity, divinity, human sacrifice,...
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Dec 31, 2018 Sam Vaknin
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Narcissism, racism, politics, relationships: is narcissism our future? Is it a positive adaptation to our narcissistic, even psychopathic world, reality, and civilization? Sam Vaknin talks to Mumia Obsidian Ali of Obsidian Radio. Sam Vaknin, Ph.D. (+38978319143, +79884640967) Visiting Professor of Psychology, Southern Federal University, Rostov-on-Don, Russia and Professor of Finance and Psychology in CIAPS (Centre for International Advanced and Professional Studies)....
Topics: narcissism, racism, society, culture, gender, women, men, divorce, relationships, social media,...
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Dec 17, 2018 Sam Vaknin
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Conversation with Alex from Ravensbourne University London, a product designer whose dissertation is titled: ‘What price would western culture pay if consumerism became its religion?’
Topics: narcissism, consumerism, consumption, goods, products, services, religion, cult, society, culture,...
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Oct 30, 2018 Sam Vaknin
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Everything You Need to Know about Narcissists, Psychopaths, and Abuse - click on this link: http://www.narcissistic-abuse.com/faq1.html There are two ways to regulate intimate relationships: via intimacy or with romantic jealousy. Mature partners achieve a workable balance between togetherness and personal autonomy. They engender intimacy via both communication and actions. Intimacy feels so good that no one in his right mind will exit such a bond. Thus, both abandonment or separation anxiety...
Topics: relationships, intimacy, jealousy, regulation, narcissist, psychopath, borderline, codependent,...
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Oct 27, 2018 Sam Vaknin
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Everything You Need to Know about Narcissists, Psychopaths, and Abuse - click on this link: http://www.narcissistic-abuse.com/faq1.html Some women - single & married - use male attention to regulate their sense of self-worth (self confidence & self esteem). When low, these "attention whores" become flirtatious, seductive, cocktease, & trade sex for even the most inconsequential signs of attention: a chat, a compliment, small gifts, flowers, or a meal. Even if the attention...
Topics: attention whores, impulse control, self-esteem, self confidence, self worth, desirable,...
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Oct 27, 2018 Sam Vaknin
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Everything You Need to Know about Narcissists, Psychopaths, and Abuse - click on this link: http://www.narcissistic-abuse.com/faq1. Why do some narcissists appear to be bumbling fools, never mind how intelligent they actually are? Eight reasons: 1. No impulse control, no forethought, no foresight = counterproductive, self-defeating, and self-destructive decisions and actions. 2. Acting out: when narcissistic supply is deficient, narcissists decompensate and go haywire (see:...
Topics: narcissist, fool, stupid, idiot, retard, grandiosity, learning, advice, narcissistic injury,...
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Oct 11, 2018 Sam Vaknin
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Everything You Need to Know about Narcissists, Psychopaths, and Abuse - click on this link: http://www.narcissistic-abuse.com/faq1.html Parents of codependents teach their offspring to expect only conditional, transactional love: the child is supposed to render a service or fulfil the parent's wishes in return for affection and compassion, attention and emotion. Ineluctably, the hurt child reacts with rage to this unjust mistreatment. With no recourse to the offending parent, this fury is...
Topics: codependency, codependence, codependent, narcissist, personality disorder, borderline, psychopath,...
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Sep 24, 2018 Sam Vaknin
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Everything You Need to Know about Narcissists, Psychopaths, and Abuse - click on this link: http://www.narcissistic-abuse.com/faq1.html Victims are now fully aware of narcissistic abuse. Why do they keep falling for it? Why don't they resist, recoil, regroup, & retreat? Because repeat victims share two things with their abusers: a partially latent pathway of mental processing & impaired object constancy. A healthy person reacts to someone they have just met on a "gut level": a...
Topics: emotions, cognitions, object constancy, processing, abuser, victim, bonding, attachment, trauma,...
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Sep 9, 2018 Sam Vaknin
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Everything You Need to Know about Narcissists, Psychopaths, and Abuse - click on this link: http://www.narcissistic-abuse.com/faq1.html I am witnessing three very disturbing, even terrifying trends: 1. Women have become at least as narcissistic as men if not more so. Few women are malignant and psychopathic: this is still the preserve of men. But in terms of raging grandiosity, hypervigilance, referential ideation, delusional fantasies, impulsive behavior, confabulating, and lack of empathy -...
Topics: narcissism, personality disorder, women, grandiosity, fantasy, entitlement, equality, social media,...
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Original interview posted on the Spartan Life Coach channel: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=KK_a2qaLRsA Capitalism is being replaced with feudalism and leads to the inevitable rise of narcissism. First of several conversations between Richard Grannon and Saqm Vaknin.
Topics: communism, capitalism, feudalism, richard grannon, spartan life coach, sam vaknin, skopje,...
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Sep 4, 2018 Sam Vaknin
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Everything You Need to Know about Narcissists, Psychopaths, and Abuse - click on this link: http://www.narcissistic-abuse.com/faq1.html If you are afraid of intimacy you will choose a partner who is equally afraid of intimacy. We all seek love or at least companionship, but some people dread them even as they look for them (ambivalence). The intimacy-averse members of a dyad will both make sure to travel alone a lot, keep exhaustingly busy, be absent from home, withhold sex or abstain from it,...
Topics: abandonment, anxiety, cognitive, dissonance, narcissist, intimate, partner, narcissistic, supply,...
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Sep 4, 2018 Sam Vaknin
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Everything You Need to Know about Narcissists, Psychopaths, and Abuse - click on this link: http://www.narcissistic-abuse.com/faq1.html Now, in view of my previous Instagram post, I am dubbed a "sexual pervert". Only one problem: there is no such thing as "perverse" sexuality. Victorian middle-class values aside, if the sexual behavior harms no one (including oneself) and is consensual (between consenting adults), then it is considered by psychologists and psychiatrists...
Topics: sex, pervert, perversion, paraphilia, dsm, icd mentalillness, values, middle class, bdsm, group...
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The concepts of "addiction" and "(pathological) narcissism" were introduced to account for oft-recurring amalgams of behaviors, moods, emotions, and cognitions. Both are organizing, exegetic principles with some predictive powers. Both hark back to Calvinist and Puritan strands of Protestantism where excess and compulsion (inner demons) were important topics. Yet, though clearly umbilically connected, as I have demonstrated elsewhere, addictive behaviors and narcissistic...
Topics: narcissism, addiction, drugs, alcoholism, substance abuse, reckless behaviors, adrenaline, junkie,...
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Jul 31, 2018 Sam Vaknin
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Everything You Need to Know about Narcissists, Psychopaths, and Abuse - click on this link: http://www.narcissistic-abuse.com/faq1.html People remain in abusive relationships because they lack self-confidence, their self-esteem is shot, not least by their "loving, intimate" "partner", and because they are unable to regulate their sense of self-worth. There are four common fallacies: I AM LUCKY I am worthless, damaged goods. I am lucky to have found even my abuser. If I leave...
Topics: abuse, relationships, intimate partner, expectations, fallacies, selfesteem, self confidence,...
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Jul 27, 2018 Sam Vaknin
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Full text https://www.instagram.com/p/Blujq9dgQ8L/?taken-by=vakninsamnarcissist Everything You Need to Know about Narcissists, Psychopaths, and Abuse - click on this link: http://www.narcissistic-abuse.com/faq1.html Some people - men and women - enjoy sex only when they cheat on their spouses. They were molded in their formative years to associate pleasure and intimacy with risk, deception, and adrenaline. They are aroused by their own immorality (or amorality) and whorish promiscuity, by the...
Topics: cheating, adultery, promiscuity, extramarital, affair, love, sex, intimacy, betrayal, marriage,...
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Jul 15, 2018 Sam Vaknin
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Everything You Need to Know about Narcissists, Psychopaths, and Abuse - click on this link: http://www.narcissistic-abuse.com/faq1.html I have written the bible about psychopathic narcissists twenty odd years ago. Yet, when I come across one, I am shaken to my foundations. There is something utterly reptilian or alien about them. Psychopathic narcissists - and histrionic and borderline women - are driven by primitive urges, unrequited needs, raw negative impulses (like rage and vindictiveness)...
Topics: narcissist, psychopath, borderline, histrionic, sadist, woman, emotions, lies, manipulation,...
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Full text here: https://www.instagram.com/p/BkuMjicgG2w/?taken-by=vakninsamnarcissist Everything You Need to Know about Narcissists, Psychopaths, and Abuse - click on this link: http://www.narcissistic-abuse.com/faq1.html Like the optimal toilet paper, men should be both strong and soft. It is here that narcissists fail: they are brittle and aggressive rather than soft and strong. There is no balance - only an ever-swinging pendulum. The narcissist's personality is precariously poised, his...
Topics: narcissist, emotions, image, imitation, empathy, fake, feigned, smarmy, effort, personality...
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Jul 4, 2018 Sam Vaknin
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Full text here: https://www.instagram.com/p/BkzWiCzA4fg/?taken-by=vakninsamnarcissist Everything You Need to Know about Narcissists, Psychopaths, and Abuse - click on this link: http://www.narcissistic-abuse.com/faq1.html We all try to replicate and re-enact our successes. We feel comfortable and confident doing what we do best and what we do most often. We enshrine our oft-repeated tasks and our cumulative experiences as habits. Asked to adopt new skills and confront unprecedented tasks, we...
Topics: loser, winner, narcissist, performance anxiety, life, success, failure, defeat, flop, habit,...
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Jun 23, 2018 Sam Vaknin
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Read the full text on my Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/p/BkXBUeZAAHc/?taken-by=vakninsamnarcissist Everything You Need to Know about Narcissists, Psychopaths, and Abuse - click on this link: http://www.narcissistic-abuse.com/faq1.html When a woman with mental health issues is sexually or otherwise rejected by her intimate partner she acts out in one of two typical ways. This is especially true if the husband also justifies his sadistic cruelty by adding abuse & overt humiliation to...
Topics: sex, intimacy, sexless, loveless, relationship, marriage, promiscuous, cockteaser, slut, whore,...
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Read the full text on my Instagram https://www.instagram.com/p/Bj65tKxAPh8/?taken-by=vakninsamnarcissist Everything You Need to Know about Narcissists, Psychopaths, and Abuse - click on this link: http://www.narcissistic-abuse.com/faq1.html The tendency to remain in bad relationships - abusive, hopeless, sexless, loveless, doomed - is known as the Sunk Cost (Concorde) Fallacy (or bias). Co-owning a business or property, shared memories, and especially co-parenting tend to cement this bias and...
Topics: bail out, sunk cost fallacy, marriage, relationship, concorde fallacy, narcissistic injury,...
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Jun 23, 2018 Sam Vaknin
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Everything You Need to Know about Narcissists, Psychopaths, and Abuse - click on this link: http://www.narcissistic-abuse.com/faq1.html The mentally ill form dyads or couples. Pathologies attract each other and resonate in alliances of pain, fused relationships. Such partnerships are suffused with torment: the mentally ill spouses or intimate partners engage in mutually hurtful conduct. It is also heartbreaking to watch your loved one's inexorable decline. Gradually, the parties settle on...
Topics: mentalillness, couple, dyad, significantother, love, relationship, control, sharedpsychosis,...
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Jun 19, 2018 Sam Vaknin
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Everything You Need to Know about Narcissists, Psychopaths, and Abuse - click on this link: http://www.narcissistic-abuse.com/faq1.html People with certain personality disorders (mainly borderline, narcissistic, compulsive-obsessive, schizotypal, and paranoid) have a "persecutory object". It is a tormenting, devaluing, and sadistic inner voice (introject). It repeatedly and authoritatively informs them that they are bad, worthless, weak, immoral, and a disappointment. Such an inner...
Topics: persecutory object, paranoia, hypervigilance, intimacy, love, hate, intimate partner, spouse,...
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May 18, 2018 Sam Vaknin
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Benny Hendel and Sam Vaknin discuss the hidden messages and cryptic occult knowledge in Alice in Wonderland.
Topics: alice in wonderland, lewis carroll, oxford, secrets, occult, cryptic, mathematics, physics,...
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Benny Hendel and Sam Vaknin discuss the hidden messages and cryptic occult knowledge in Alice Through the Looking Glass.
Topics: alice through the looking glass, lewis carroll, oxford, secrets, occult, cryptic, mathematics,...
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A 5-part dialog IN HEBREW about time, space, and the nature of reality between Benny Hendel and Sam Vaknin,
Topics: time, space, physics, reality, theory, technology
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Mar 13, 2018 Sam Vaknin
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Everything You Need to Know about Narcissists, Psychopaths, and Abuse - click on this link: http://www.narcissistic-abuse.com/faq1.html Intermittent reinforcement is actually rarely conscious. Many bullies are NOT aware of their misbehavior and deny it. Many bullies even claim to be the victims. Manipulation is the OUTCOME of intermittent reinforcement but it is rarely intentional. The Internet and the media confuse psychopaths with bullies. Psychopaths are DELIBERATELY manipulative. But only a...
Topics: bully, abuser, narcissist, psychopath, intermittent reinforcement, hot and cold,...
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Feb 12, 2018 Sam Vaknin
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Everything You Need to Know about Narcissists, Psychopaths, and Abuse - click on this link: http://www.narcissistic-abuse.com/faq1.html Histrionics respond differently to two types of men.   MEN TYPE 1   These are men who openly desire the histrionic, are infatuated with her, or even love her. The histrionic sees herself through their eyes and she likes what she sees. She falls in love with herself through them.   But after a brief affair or a few encounters with this type of men, they begin...
Topics: histrionic, narcissist, sexulaity, relationships, personality disorders, approach-avoidance...
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Jan 8, 2018 Sam Vaknin
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Everything You Need to Know about Narcissists, Psychopaths, and Abuse - click on this link: http://www.narcissistic-abuse.com/faq1.html Act as “background noise”: ask no questions, never criticize or disagree, when addressed confine your response to the issues broached and do not introduce new topics into the conversation. In short: never initiate or be proactive – always react meekly, compliantly, and subserviently. (From the book "Malignant Self-love: Narcissism Revisited" by...
Topics: no contact, background noise, abuse, antisocial, battering, divorce, domestic violence, dsm-iv,...
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Dec 22, 2017 Sam Vaknin
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Everything You Need to Know about Narcissists, Psychopaths, and Abuse - click on this link: http://www.narcissistic-abuse.com/faq1.html The sadistic women-lover (philogynist) is drawn to women, desires them, covets their traits, admires them, and, generally, prefers to spend his time with them. But it is precisely this inexorable pull that terrifies him: he is awed by women’s hold over him and mortified by his own resultant women-centred obsessions and compulsions. He is poorly equipped to...
Topics: sadist, women-lover, women-hater, philogynist, misogynist, narcissist, frustrate, torture,...
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Sep 23, 2017 Sam Vaknin
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Everything You Need to Know about Narcissists, Psychopaths, and Abuse - click on this link: http://www.narcissistic-abuse.com/faq1.html Borderline Personality Disorder (BPD) is often diagnosed together (comorbid) with other personality disorders: histrionic, narcissistic, and antisocial (psychopathy). The majority of persons diagnosed with these comorbidities of personality disorders are women. Borderline Personality Disorder is a post-traumatic state which is repeatedly triggered by neglect,...
Topics: histrionic, narcissistic, psychopathic, borderline, personality disorders, inhibition
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Sep 23, 2017 Sam Vaknin
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Everything You Need to Know about Narcissists, Psychopaths, and Abuse - click on this link: http://www.narcissistic-abuse.com/faq1.html Fear of Intimacy The inner dialog, inner script, of people who fear intimacy is comprised of several strands: This (potential) intimate partner will destroy my life. I will be left with nothing and no one; I am no good. I am crazy. I will hurt this (potential) intimate partner and destroy his or her life. I must get away from him/her for his/her own good;...
Topics: intimacy, commitment, personality, hostile, pain, aversion, hurt, approach-avoidance repetition...
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Mar 17, 2017 Sam Vaknin
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17 places left! Click on this link to secure your place: http://www.ccnow.com/cgi-local/cart.cgi?vaksam_EARLYBIRD (scroll to the bottom of the page to pay). Bring a paying friend or colleague to the seminar and get a refund of 10% (30 USD)! You are invited to attend the first ever certification seminar for a new treatment modality for narcissists and psychopaths, “Cold Therapy”.   The seminar will be held in Vienna, Austria, May 12-14, 2017 in the Matteo Room of Hotel am Stephensplatz...
Topics: cold therapy, narcissist, narcissism, psychopath, antisocial, treatment modality, healing,...
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Feb 27, 2017 Sam Vaknin
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Everything You Need to Know about Narcissists, Psychopaths, and Abuse - click on this link: http://www.narcissistic-abuse.com/faq1.html Of course narcissists have emotions. All human beings have emotions. It is how we choose to relate to our emotions that matters. The narcissist tends to repress them so deeply that, for all practical purposes, they play no conscious role in his life and conduct, though they play an extraordinarily large unconscious role in determining both. Like everyone else,...
Topics: narcissist, emotions, feelings, music, sadness, envy, hurt, rage, narcissistic injury, slights,...
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Jan 31, 2017 Sam Vaknin
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Everything You Need to Know about Narcissists, Psychopaths, and Abuse - click on this link: http://www.narcissistic-abuse.com/faq1.html The English Paediatrician and psychoanalyst Donald Winnicott suggested that abused children need to hate and to be hated as a defense against the false hope of ever being loved. They not only act out anti-socially but also seek to provoke hatred in parents, caregivers, and authority figures. At least in this comfort zone of mutual antagonism there is no risk of...
Topics: narcissist, hate, hatred, love, emotions, narcissistic supply, dependence, resentment, frustration,...
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Nov 28, 2016 Sam Vaknin
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Sam Vaknin's lecture about narcissistic parents in Rostov-on-Don, Russia. Translation to Russian: Ekaterina Buturlakina.
Topics: narcissism, personality, narcissistic, narcissistic personality disorder, NPD, psychopaths,...
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Part 2 of Sam Vaknin's lecture about pathological narcissism in the Preobrazhenie psychotherapy clinic in Rostov-on-Don, Russia. Translation to Russian: Ekaterina Buturlakina.
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Part 1 of Sam Vaknin's lecture about pathological narcissism in the Preobrazhenie psychotherapy clinic in Rostov-on-Don, Russia. Translation to Russian: Ekaterina Buturlakina.
Topics: narcissism, personality, narcissistic, narcissistic personality disorder, NPD, psychopaths,...
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Oct 8, 2016 Sam Vaknin
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Everything You Need to Know about Narcissists, Psychopaths, and Abuse - click on this link: http://www.narcissistic-abuse.com/faq1.html There are two possible pathological reactions to childhood abuse and trauma: codependence and narcissism. They both involve fantasy as a defense mechanism: the codependent has a pretty realistic assessment of herself, but her view of others is fantastic; the narcissist’s self-image and self-perception are delusional and grandiose, but his penetrating view of...
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Everything You Need to Know about Narcissists, Psychopaths, and Abuse - click on this link: http://www.narcissistic-abuse.com/faq1.html Frustrating one's nearest and dearest has the dual "advantage" of simultaneously satisfying the narcissist's masochistic and sadistic urges. By withholding love, sex, intimacy, and the fulfillment of other people's desires and needs, the narcissist torments them even as he obstructs his own gratification. Self-sabotage, self-defeat, self-denial, and...
Topics: narcissism, narcissist, narcissistic supply, self-denial, frustration, masochism, sadism,...
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Aug 21, 2016 Sam Vaknin
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Everything You Need to Know about Narcissists, Psychopaths, and Abuse - click on this link: http://www.narcissistic-abuse.com/faq1.html Narcissists exhibit the cognitive bias known as the “Dunning-Kruger effect”: they are deluded about the true level of their abilities, knowledge, and skills. But, they tend to sustain this delusion also by devaluing and underestimating others. Grandiosity can be conceived of as a set of cognitive biases constructed on an edifice of cognitive deficits which...
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Everything You Need to Know about Narcissists, Psychopaths, and Abuse - click on this link: http://www.narcissistic-abuse.com/faq1.html To avoid painful contradictions with reality or cognitive dissonances and also to ameliorate his raging abandonment or separation anxiety, the narcissist aims to micromanage and control his human environment by subsuming it or by merging and fusing with it (exactly as codependents do). His nearest and dearest are reduced to mere representations, avatars,...
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Everything You Need to Know about Narcissists, Psychopaths, and Abuse - click on this link: http://www.narcissistic-abuse.com/faq1.html The narcissist's True Self is introverted and dysfunctional. In healthy people, Ego functions are generated from the inside, from the Ego. In narcissists, the Ego is dormant, comatose. The narcissist needs the input of and feedback from the outside world (from others) in order to perform the most basic Ego functions (e.g., "recognizing" of the world,...
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Everything You Need to Know about Narcissists, Psychopaths, and Abuse - click on this link: http://www.narcissistic-abuse.com/faq1.html The narcissist abuses his intimate partners, significant others, and nearest and dearest because it helps him to regulate his excruciating abandonment anxiety in 4 ways: (1) Devlauing others restores his sense of superiority and grandiosity; (2) He preempts his own abandonment by precipitating it and, thus, controlling the situation; (3) His abusive conduct...
Topics: narcissist, psychopath, abandonment anxiety, behavior modification, perfection, superiority,...
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May 11, 2016 Sam Vaknin
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Everything You Need to Know about Narcissists, Psychopaths, and Abuse - click on this link: http://www.narcissistic-abuse.com/faq1.html We find Potemkin narcissists with empty brands in politics (the “Being There Syndrome” manifested in the likes of Obama, Palin, and Putin); in the media (where, for example, compulsively self-promoting physicists like Kaku or even Hawking are worshipped as transformative geniuses even though they are credited with a mere single, esoteric, and marginal...
Topics: celebrity, media, narcissist, career, legacy, teamwork, collaboration, narcissistic supply,...
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Mar 19, 2016 Sam Vaknin
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The Encyclopedia Britannica has long been much more than a venerable print reference work. Almost two decades ago, it pioneered a freemium website (some content free, other content behind a pay wall). This has now flourished into a comprehensive walled garden of knowledge. Additionally, the Britannica publishes books and DVDs about specific topics and issues (the venerable flagship print encyclopedia had been discontinued in 2012.) These are the best primers and introductions available to a...
Topics: Internet, web, browser, software, application, content, digital content, Britannica, Encarta,...
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In this in-depth interview, Writer/Producer Nancy Fulton talks to Sam Vaknin, author of "Malignant Self-love: Narcissism Revisited" about the symptoms, causes, and treatments of Narcissism and Psychopathy and how these disorders affect the patients and their human environment in various settings (family, workplace, church, politics, etc.)  Vaknin, twice diagnosed as a psychopathic narcissist, has been working with millions of readers, therapists, researchers, and victims of...
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Everything You Need to Know about Narcissists, Psychopaths, and Abuse - click on this link: http://www.narcissistic-abuse.com/faq1.html the narcissistic parent may single out one of his children and encourage the “golden” or “sunshine” child to idolise him, to adore him, to be awed by him, to admire his deeds and capabilities, to learn to blindly trust and obey him, in short to surrender to his charisma and to become submerged in his follies-de-grandeur. The remains of the litter –...
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Dec 29, 2015 Sam Vaknin
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Ken Heilbrunn's insightful and magisterial introduction to "Malignant Self-love: Narcissism Revisited" by Sam Vaknin. Read the full text here: http://www.narcissistic-abuse.com/kenintro.html Hello. Recognise me? No? Well, you see me all the time. You read my books, watch me on the big screen, feast on my art, cheer at my games, use my inventions, vote me into office, follow me into battle, take notes at my lectures, laugh at my jokes, marvel at my successes, admire my appearance,...
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Nov 20, 2015 Sam Vaknin
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(From the book "Malignant Self-love: Narcissism Revisited" by Sam Vaknin - Click on this link to purchase the print book, or 16 e-books, or 3 DVDs with 16 hours of video lectures on narcissists, psychopaths, and abuse in relationships: http://www.narcissistic-abuse.com/thebook.html) Here are 15 quotes from the my book "Malignant Self-love: Narcissism Revisited": 1. To forgive is never to forget. But to remember is not necessarily to re-experience. 2. Pathological narcissism...
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Oct 25, 2015 Sam Vaknin
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Everything You Need to Know about Narcissists, Psychopaths, and Abuse - click on this link: http://www.narcissistic-abuse.com/faq1.html Lidija Rangelovska advanced the idea that some children subjected to abuse in dysfunctional families – objectified, dehumanized, their boundaries breached, and their growth stunted – develop intense feelings of shame. They turn out to be codependents or narcissists owing to their genetic makeup and innate character. According to her, children who turned out...
Topics: shame, guilt, normal, false self, true self, abuse. childhood, narcissists, psychopaths, normal,...
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Oct 4, 2015 Sam Vaknin
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Merkel's Putsch: Germany Initiated the Refugee Crisis in Europe (Sam Vaknin talks to Zoran Dimitrovski)
Topics: germany, refugees, merkel, eu, european union, hungary, greece, italy, syria, iraq, afghanistan,...
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Jul 15, 2015 Sam Vaknin
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Greece may have run out of economic cards in its poker game with the Eurozone's Eurogroup. But, it still has several geostrategic and geopolitical cards that it can play to put the squeeze on the European Union: the flow of refugees from the battlefields of the Middle East to the EU; the transit via its territory of wannabe fighters and funds to ISIS; NATO's crumbling southern flank vis-a-vis Russia (with Turkey all but turned anti-Western); the simmering political and economic crisis in...
Topics: greece, euro, eurozone, eurogroup, macedonia, cyprus, nato, turkey, isis, usa, eu, european union,...
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Jul 11, 2015 Sam Vaknin
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Everything You Need to Know about Narcissists, Psychopaths, and Abuse - click on this link: http://www.narcissistic-abuse.com/faq1.html The narcissist regards his disabled or challenged child as an insult, a direct challenge to his self-perceived perfection and omnipotence, a constant, nagging source of negative narcissistic supply, and the reification and embodiment of a malevolent and hostile world which tirelessly conspires to render him a victim through misfortune and catastrophe. The...
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Jul 10, 2015 Sam Vaknin
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Interview on TV Sonce offers an analysis of the crisis in Greece and the euro in mid 2015.
Topics: greece, euro, eurozone, european union, eurogroup, single currency, economy, taxation, budget,...
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Jul 2, 2015 Sam Vaknin
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Sam Vaknin's interview in Ekonomija i Biznis (Macedonia): What is the true importance of Greece's arrears to the IMF? Will it default? What are the distinctions between arrears, default, and sovereign bankruptcy? Will Greece exit the eurozone and, if so, how would it impact the parties involved?
Topics: greece, grexit, arrears, imf, default, credit default swaps, banks, euro, eurozone, sovereign...
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Jun 20, 2015 Sam Vaknin
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Everything You Need to Know about Narcissists, Psychopaths, and Abuse - click on this link: http://www.narcissistic-abuse.com/faq1.html Covert narcissists are aware of their innate limitations and shortcomings and, therefore, constantly fret and stress over their inability to fulfil their unrealistic dreams and expectations. They avoid recognition, competition, and the limelight for fear of being exposed as frauds or failures. They are ostentatiously modest. Covert narcissists often feel guilty...
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Macedonia 2015: politics, geopolitics, conspiracies and Kosovo. Responses in English.
Topics: kosovo, macedonia, zaev, gruevski, eu, european union, usa, israel, terrorism, turkey, isis, syria,...
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Jun 10, 2015 Sam Vaknin
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Impact of the results of Turkey's 2015 general elections on Turkey itself, Macedonia and Kosovo, the Balkans, Europe, the and Middle East.
Topics: turkey, erdogan, elections, 2015, kurds, israel, middle east, syria, al-assad, isis, terrorism,...
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Jun 10, 2015 Sam Vaknin
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Kod on TV Telma: Kosovo is imploding and the reverberations will be felt throughout the region, especially in Macedonia. English-language interview around minute 15:00.
Topics: kosovo, terrorism, nla, uck, kla, macedonia, albania, serbia, usa, west, economy, unemployment,...
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May 29, 2015 Sam Vaknin
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A quiet revolution is happening in the National and University Library (NUL) in Skopje, in the tiny Republic of Macedonia. Increasingly and inexorably, it is augmenting its print collections with digital offerings, in line with international developments and practices. The wider public now has unprecedented access online to a wealth of bibliographic materials and primary sources. We met Žaklina Gjalevska, M.Sc., Senior Librarian - Head of Sector Virtual Library of Macedonia, Miodrag Dadasovic,...
Topics: macedonia, nub, nul, national and university library, databases, bibliogrpahy, applications,...
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May 26, 2015 Sam Vaknin
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Everything You Need to Know about Narcissists, Psychopaths, and Abuse - click on this link: http://www.narcissistic-abuse.com/faq1.html The narcissist says: "I live through others. I inhabit their memories of me. Bits and pieces of Sam are strewn across continents, among hundreds of casual acquaintances, friends, lovers, teachers, admirers, and despisers. I exist by reflection. This is the essence of Secondary Narcissistic Supply - the secure knowledge that I am replicated in the minds of...
Topics: narcissism, narcissist, glory, grandiosity, fantasies, witnesses, self-worth, false self,...
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May 14, 2015 Sam Vaknin
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Kosovo, a failed quasi-state, half-protectorate is about to implode and the spill-over is already being felt in Macedonia and in Serbia.
Topics: kosovo, macedonia, albania, serbia, gruevski, zaev, politics, geopolitics, west, usa, eu,...
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Apr 24, 2015 Sam Vaknin
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Subjected to self-appointed, contemptuous, rapacious, and power-crazed "elites" and to constant abuse from neighbors and the international community, Macedonians are traumatized. They react as victims with C-PTSD do: a fractured sense of self-identity, avoidant withdrawal, phobic attitude to the new and the unknown, aggression and hostility, compensatory megalomania (narcissism), paranoid ideation, and hypervigilance. The Macedonian collective is in the throes of clinical depression...
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Apr 16, 2015 Sam Vaknin
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Everything You Need to Know about Narcissists, Psychopaths, and Abuse - click on this link: http://www.narcissistic-abuse.com/faq1.html Still, deep down bureaucracies epitomize the predominant culture of failure: failure as a product, the intended outcome and end-result of complex, deliberate, and arduous manufacturing processes. Like the majority of people, bureaucrats are emotionally invested in failure, not in success: they thrive on failure, calamity, and emergency. The worse the disaster...
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Apr 1, 2015 Sam Vaknin
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Everything You Need to Know about Narcissists, Psychopaths, and Abuse - click on this link: http://www.narcissistic-abuse.com/faq1.html The recipients of the narcissist’s tainted and conditional “largesse” similarly equate money with love. Craving the latter, they settle for the former. With so many strings attached to the narcissist’s “gifts” they end up entangled and dangling like dysfunctional marionettes, puppets in the narcissist’s theatre of the absurd. The psychodynamic...
Topics: money, lucre, narcissist, power, sadist, sadism, status, fear, adulation, admiration, consumption,...
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Mar 20, 2015 Sam Vaknin
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Everything You Need to Know about Narcissists, Psychopaths, and Abuse - click on this link: http://www.narcissistic-abuse.com/faq1.html The narcissist says: "When I have money, I can exercise my sadistic urges freely and with little fear of repercussions. Money shields me from life itself, from the outcomes of my actions, it insulates me warmly and safely, like a benevolent blanket, like a mother's good night kiss. Yes, money is undoubtedly a love substitute. And it allows me to be my...
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Mar 19, 2015 Sam Vaknin
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The NSA (National Security Agency) is very active in the Balkans and especially in the Republic of Macedonia. All the information in this audio recording is culled from NSA documents released by Edward Snowden to American and British media and now publicly available on the Internet.
Topics: nsa, national security agency, macedonia, kosovo, snowden, intelligence, ubk, greece, balkans
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Mar 6, 2015 Sam Vaknin
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There are only a few types of equipment that provide adequate coverage for the mass surveillance of mobile (cell) phones: Zebra (VASTech), Ability IBIS and IIICat (interceptors.com), and StingRay II Mark 3 (Harris).
Topics: surveillance, stingray, ability, VASTech, Harris, mobile phones, cellphones, eavesdropping
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Everything You Need to Know about Narcissists, Psychopaths, and Abuse - click on this link: http://www.narcissistic-abuse.com/faq1.html In 1835, the British J. C. Pritchard, working as senior Physician at the Bristol Infirmary (hospital), published a seminal work titled "Treatise on Insanity and Other Disorders of the Mind". He, in turn, suggested the neologism "moral insanity". To quote him, moral insanity consisted of "a morbid perversion of the natural feelings,...
Topics: psychopath, antisocial, personality disorder, moral insanity, mental illness, history, psychology,...
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Mar 1, 2015 Sam Vaknin
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Everything You Need to Know about Narcissists, Psychopaths, and Abuse - click on this link: http://www.narcissistic-abuse.com/faq1.html Self-styled "life coaches", self-appointed "experts" on narcissism (with and without academic credentials), wannabe and self-important bloggers: they feign sympathy, empathy, aceptance and "love" for victims and survivors of abuse. Actually, the majority of them are malignant narcissists, out to take your money, adulation, and,...
Topics: life coach, expert, scholar, moderator, list-owner, blogger, victim, survivor, narcissistic abuse,...
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Jan 10, 2015 Sam Vaknin
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Everything You Need to Know about Narcissists, Psychopaths, and Abuse - click on this link: http://www.narcissistic-abuse.com/faq1.html Some patients develop codependent behaviors and traits in the wake of a life crisis, especially if it involves an abandonment and resulting solitude (e.g. divorce, or an empty nest: when oneâs children embark on their own, autonomous lives, or leave home altogether.) Such late-onset codependence fosters a complex emotional and behavioral chain reaction whose...
Topics: situational codependent, codependence, life crisis, divorce, death, empty nest, loneliness,...
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Dec 26, 2014 Sam Vaknin
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Everything You Need to Know about Narcissists, Psychopaths, and Abuse - click on this link: http://www.narcissistic-abuse.com/faq1.html Pathological narcissism is a ubiquitous phenomenon because every human being - regardless of the nature of his society and culture - develops healthy narcissism early in life. Healthy narcissism is rendered pathological by abuse - and abuse, alas, is a universal human behavior. By "abuse" we mean any refusal to acknowledge the emerging boundaries of...
Topics: narcissism, anomie, society, culture, collective, atomization, alienation, empathy, crime,...
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Everything You Need to Know about Narcissists, Psychopaths, and Abuse - click on this link: http://www.narcissistic-abuse.com/faq1.html I propose a tripartite model of empathy, roughly corresponding to Freudâs postulated id, ego, and superego. In this model, normal empathy is comprised of three components: instinctual, emotional, and cognitive. Children develop empathy in three phases which correspond to these three components, constructing the emotional and cognitive tiers upon an instinctual...
Topics: empathy, morality, childhood, child, socialization, society, guilt, pain, human, robot, android,...
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Nov 22, 2014 Sam Vaknin
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Everything You Need to Know about Narcissists, Psychopaths, and Abuse - click on this link: http://www.narcissistic-abuse.com/faq1.html You have been abused, maltreated, harrassed, and stalked. You feel that you fell prey to a narcissist or psychopath. But, you must move on from victim to survivor.No one will or can do it for you: Not your therapist, not your best friend, not your nearest family. Only you can choose survival over victimhood. (From the book "Malignant Self-love: Narcissism...
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Nov 22, 2014 Sam Vaknin
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Everything You Need to Know about Narcissists, Psychopaths, and Abuse - click on this link: http://www.narcissistic-abuse.com/faq1.html Patriotism is akin to the healthy form of self-love: it consists mainly of pride in oneâs self-identity and values based on oneâs culture and shared history. Patriotism is not exclusionary, but inclusive. The patriot, in constantly seeking to improve his lot and that of his compatriots, is open to advice and suggestions, and welcomes criticism. Patriotism is...
Topics: nationalism, patriotism, self-love, narcissism, racism, splitting, projection, projective...
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Nov 16, 2014 Sam Vaknin
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Zoran Dimitrovski and Sam Vaknin  discuss the differences between nationalism and patriotism and the role that the media can and should play in preserverving and furthering democarcy. Are there any limits to free speech and journalistic duties?
Topics: zoran dimitrovski, sam vaknin, nationalism, patriotism, free speech, journalism, macedonia,...
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Nov 1, 2014 Sam Vaknin
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Click on this link to watch part 1: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Ch-H5icTXF4 Everything You Need to Know about Narcissists, Psychopaths, and Abuse - click on this link: http://www.narcissistic-abuse.com/faq1.html The narcissistâs ability to penetrate the defenses of his victims is instinctual and intuitive, not the outcome of deliberative analysis. He homes in on other peopleâs vulnerabilities as a tiger mauls a straying, weakened gazelle ; he leverages his targetâs fears and neediness...
Topics: uncanny valley, robot, humanoid, android, narcissist, sadist, predator, psychopath, antisocial,...
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Oct 30, 2014 Sam Vaknin
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Everything You Need to Know about Narcissists, Psychopaths, and Abuse - click on this link: http://www.narcissistic-abuse.com/faq1.html The narcissist says: "I am cursed with mental X-ray vision. I see through people's emotional shields, their petty lies, their pitiable defences, their grandiose fantasies. I know when they deviate from the truth and by how much. I intuitively grasp their self-interested goals and accurately predict the strategy and tactics they will adopt in order to...
Topics: narcissist, sadist, predator, psychopath, antisocial, vulnerabilities, vulnerable, susceptible,...
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Oct 11, 2014 Sam Vaknin
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Everything You Need to Know about Narcissists, Psychopaths, and Abuse - click on this link: http://www.narcissistic-abuse.com/faq1.html The dysfunctional dialog deals with questions that are far more fundamental (and typically settled early on in life): "Who am I?" "What are my traits, my skills, my accomplishments?" "How reliable, loveable, trustworthy, qualified, truthful am I?" "How can I separate fact from fiction?" The answers to these questions...
Topics: narcissist, psychopath, inner dialog, introjects, socialization, therapy, holding environment,...
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Sep 27, 2014 Sam Vaknin
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Everything You Need to Know about Narcissists, Psychopaths, and Abuse - click on this link: http://www.narcissistic-abuse.com/faq1.html The American Psychiatric Association, based in Washington D.C., USA, publishes the Diagnostic and Statistical Manual of Mental Disorders, fourth edition, Text Revision (DSM-IV-TR) [2000] and fifth edition [2013], where it provides the diagnostic criteria for Narcissistic Personality Disorder (301.81, p. 669). Both editions of the DSM define Narcissistic...
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Everything You Need to Know about Narcissists, Psychopaths, and Abuse - click on this link: http://www.narcissistic-abuse.com/faq1.html Narcissists cannot delay gratification. They are creatures of the here and now, because they feel boundlessly entitled. When forced to specialise or persist, they feel stagnation and "death". It is not a matter of choice but a structural constraint. This is the way a narcissist is built, this is his modus operandi, and his vacillating style of life...
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Sam Vaknin and Zoran Dimitrovski discuss the books by Thomas Piketty and Nicholas Boyle in the context of current geopolitical crises and emergencies (September 2014).
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Sam Vaknin and Zoran Dimitrovski Discuss Ukraine, Putin, Iraq, ISIS, and Macedonia (August 2014)
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Aug 23, 2014 Sam Vaknin
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Everything You Need to Know about Narcissists, Psychopaths, and Abuse - click on this link: http://www.narcissistic-abuse.com/faq1.html The narcissistâs (and the codependentâs) introjects and inner voices (assimilated representations of parents, role models, and significant peers) are mostly negative and sadistic. Rather than provide succour, motivation, and direction, they enhance his underlying ego-dystony (discontent with who he is) and the lability of his sense of self-worth. Introjects...
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Aug 9, 2014 Sam Vaknin
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Everything You Need to Know about Narcissists, Psychopaths, and Abuse - click on this link: http://www.narcissistic-abuse.com/faq1.html The narcissist has no private life, no true self, no domain reserved exclusively for his nearest and dearest. His life is a spectacle, with free access to all, constantly on display, garnering narcissistic supply from his audience. In the theatre that is the narcissist's life, the actor is irrelevant. Only the show goes on. The False Self is everything the...
Topics: narcissist, narcissism, narrative, biography, personal history, false self, confabulation,...
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Everything You Need to Know about Narcissists, Psychopaths, and Abuse - click on this link: http://www.narcissistic-abuse.com/faq1.html I am often shocked when presented with incontrovertible evidence to an event in my past, something I said, or did, a person I knew, a sentence I have written. I do not remember having done, said, or written what is attributed to me. I do not recall having met the person, having felt anything, having been there. It is not that it looks alien to me, as though it...
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Everything You Need to Know about Narcissists, Psychopaths, and Abuse - click on this link: http://www.narcissistic-abuse.com/faq1.html There is little the victim can do to "educate" the therapist or "prove" to him who is the guilty party. Mental health professionals are as ego-centered as the next person. They are emotionally invested in opinions they form or in their interpretation of the abusive relationship. They perceive every disagreement as a challenge to their...
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The Balkans as a region is a relatively novel way of looking at the discrete nation-states that emerged from the carcasses of the Ottoman and Habsburg Empires and fought over their spoils. This sempiternal fight is a determinant of Balkan identity. The nations of the Balkan are defined more by ornery opposition than by cohesive identities. They derive sustenance and political-historical coherence from conflict. It is their afflatus. The more complex the axes of self-definition, the more...
Topics: balkans, religion, interethic strife, conflict, war, islam, judaism, christianity, antisemitism
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Jun 7, 2014 Sam Vaknin
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Everything You Need to Know about Narcissists, Psychopaths, and Abuse - click on this link: http://www.narcissistic-abuse.com/faq1.html Personal boundaries are rules of conduct, red lines in the sand any infringement and breach of which you deem unacceptable behavior. You need to set your boundaries clearly, unequivocally, and unambiguously firstly to yourself: how to protect your dignity, privacy, freedom, and priorities. You then need to communicate your boundaries to your partner replete...
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Chronons (a quantized time hypothesis) on Wikipedia (May 6, 2014)
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May 25, 2014 Sam Vaknin
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Abuse survivor, poet, and spoken word artist, Audrey Michelle, talks to Sam Vaknin, author of "Malignant Self-love: Narcissism Revisited": How Does the Abuser See the Victims of Abuse? Audrey Michelle: https://www.facebook.com/audreymichellepoet Sam Vaknin: https://www.facebook.com/samvaknin http://www.narcissistic-abuse.com Part of the Insight Enabled series.
Topics: Survivor, victim, audrey michelle, sam vaknin, abuse, antisocial, battering, divorce, domestic...
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May 16, 2014 Sam Vaknin
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Everything You Need to Know about Narcissists, Psychopaths, and Abuse - click on this link: http://www.narcissistic-abuse.com/faq1.html Contrary to misinformation spread by "experts" online, covert narcissists are not cunning and manipulative. Classic narcissists are: they often disguise their true nature effectively, knowingly, and intentionally. They are persistent actors with great thespian skills. Not so the covert narcissist: he suppresses his true nature because he lacks the...
Topics: covert narcissist, inverted narcissist, classic narcissist, overt, arrogant, shy, vulnerable,...
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May 3, 2014 Sam Vaknin
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Everything You Need to Know about Narcissists, Psychopaths, and Abuse - click on this link: http://www.narcissistic-abuse.com/faq1.html Somatic narcissists are often portrayed as sex addicts or histrionic. But really they derive their narcissistic supply not so much from the sex act as from the process of securing it: the conspiracies and assignations, the chase and conquest, the subjugation and habituation of their targets, and even from dumping and discarding their prey, once having extracted...
Topics: somatic narcissist, cerebral narcissist, histrionic, sex addict, pursuit, chase, sexual conquest,...
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Apr 8, 2014 Sam Vaknin
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forced, affected, supercillious, fake, artificial, superficial weird, strange, eccentric, unfriendly, schizoid, recluse, hermit, off-kilter, aloof, indifferent, unfeeling, heartless boisterous, gregarious, attention-seeking imposing, overweening, dominant, alpha self-centered, egotistical, solipsistic malignant, poisonous, venomous, insidious, pernicious ambitious, driven, relentless, ruthless, callous tiring, depleting, energy vampire duplicitous, liar, confabulator, dissimulator frightening,...
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Everything You Need to Know about Narcissists, Psychopaths, and Abuse - click on this link: http://www.narcissistic-abuse.com/faq1.html Refuse All Contact Be sure to maintain as much contact with your abuser as the courts, counsellors, mediators, guardians, or law enforcement officials mandate. Do NOT contravene the decisions of the system. Work from the inside to change judgments, evaluations, or rulings â but NEVER rebel against them or ignore them. You will only turn the system against you...
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Mar 30, 2014 Sam Vaknin
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An anthology of more than 50 articles regarding the politics, economics, geopolitics and history of countries in central and eastern Europe and the Balkans.
Topics: Central Europe, Southeastern Europe, Balkans, Eastern Europe, Yugoslavia, Russia, Albania,...
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Mar 28, 2014 Sam Vaknin
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Cold Empathy evokes the concept of âUncanny Valleyâ, coined in 1970 by the Japanese roboticist Masahiro Mori. Mori suggested that people react positively to androids (humanlike robots) for as long as they differ from real humans in meaningful and discernible ways. But the minute these contraptions come to resemble humans uncannily, though imperfectly, human observers tend to experience repulsion, revulsion, and other negative emotions, including fear. The same reactive trajectory and...
Topics: narcissist, narcissism psychopath, cold empathy, uncanny valley, robot, emotions, childhood,...